Get Married This Year
Janet Blair Page PhD is a psychotherapist. She not only has practices in New York City and Atlanta, but also teaches at Emory University. For over 20 years she has taught a class on getting married. She has taken those principles and published this book so anyone can benefit from them.
The brief description on the front jacket is a good introduction:
While all of Get Married This Year is full of good advice, the first six months are important for any person (woman or man although the target audience is women) to care for herself and her future. To have a good relationship with a partner or spouse a person must first know and love herself.
When Get Married This Year was offered for review, I was glad to read it. The more I read, the more I wish I'd had something like this for my daughters while they were single and looking for future partners. I'm happy with my sons-in-law and my daughters' relationships. Even so, this information would have helped them be strong in themselves as they met these men.
The first chapter includes a self-examination. Dr. Page encourages the reader to grab a pen and complete the questions. It includes four groups of questions - "All About You", "Your Family", "Your Romantic History", and "Your Life Today". There is also a section to reflect on the reader's current life and optinions, then a love resume to complete. This gives the reader a chance to go back over past relationships and identify the good and the bad in them. This self-reflection throughout the chapter is the basis of the rest of Get Married This Year. This is part of "Knowing Yourself". If a woman doesn't know herself, who she is, and what she wants, any relationship is doomed.
Once Page moves on to the relationship section, her advice is again useful. I had to chuckled when she talks about honesty as the relationship progresses. She encourages the reader to tell the man she is reading this book. His reaction to that information can give good clues to the future of the relationship.
Although Get Married This Year is not a marriage manual, the last short chapter is devoteed to maintaining a marriage. Often Page compares maintaining a marriage is similar to keeping a job. You wouldn't do (whatever) at work if you wanted to keep the job, would you? Then why do that to your partner?
Page includes "Love Stories" throughout the book. These are vignettes from people she's worked with, describing their situation or experiences. These stories are sprinkled through Get Married This Year to illustrate the different points she is making. These personal touches add life to an already readable text.
Many people will pass this book by because of its title. Yet much of the wisdom included in Get Married This Year is applicable before and after you are married. Self confidence leads to a better relationship. A better relationship leads to more self confidence. A perspective of past disappointments can be used to avoid possible future problems. In the same way, past successes can be guides for future successes.
Get Married This Year is a useful book for both self growth and relationship growth.
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